Okay, so we all know that
being single in our culture
after a certain age is like
driving around in a car
with a manual transmission
and no air-conditioning
…yep not life threatening
but frustrating as heck
and sometimes disheartening.
Finding the right partner
is certainly not an easy
road to navigate, however,
I feel like the level of difficulty
is increased exponentially
in Nigeria.
Prior to moving back
to Nigeria, I had heard
all these amazing stories
about how people moved
back and got married
within 6 months and so on. One story in particular stuck in my mind. This girl, was just
hanging outside her house when her neighbour came by to say hi with a friend of his.
I imagine megawatts of “thunder and lightning” must have occurred, because after dating
said friend seriously (I mean seeing each other everyday and all the other typical
aspects of being in a relationship) for 6 months, he proposed and the rest as they say
is history – introduction, engagement, wedding and the whole nine yards.
I repeated this story and many others to my wide network of girlfriends and we
did a lot of oohing andaahing over how romantic these stories were, oh, I forgot to
mention that this was during the “innovative” period of wedding websites.
I can’t tell you how many hours I spent going to these sites and looking at all
the lovely pictures and reading the various “how we met” stories. I was definitely
an old school romantic … sigh.
So of course my girls and I would go on about how lucky women at home
were with so many “hot” Nigerian men to choose from…right … WRONG!
What people forget to mention is that sure there are men a dime a
dozen, however how many of them areELIGIBLE?
Okay so let’s get some definitions going …
